The Musical Iceberg of Loss Pain and Grief

October 26, 2020 - November 30, 2020

Zoom - Online


The Musical Iceberg of Loss, Pain and Grief
- Notes of Fleeting Thoughts

“Death is like a mirror in which the true meaning of life is reflected”
Sogyal Rinpoche

with Dr. Beth Nemesh, Lesley University. Licensed Marital & Family Therapist;
Certified expressive arts therapist and Co-founder of the Satir Institute of Galilee, Israel

October 26, November 2, 9, 16, 23, 30, 2020
8:00 pm to 10:30 pm Pacific Daylight Time
(15 Continuing Education Hours)

via the Zoom Platform

Program Description

This workshop is intended for the Satir community of therapists. It is a transformative learning experience for helping yourself and others along the journey of bereavement (loss pain and grief) using music. Throughout history, music, song, voice and dance were used in rituals to accompany and assist the dying and mourning of loss and death.

We all experience death, sickness, loss, and pain. Whether of someone or something we have and value in our lives. The journey through the process of grief moves at a personal pace and may be lengthy and tangled. Healing will eventually take place when grief is resolved in acceptance, finding inner peace and reconnecting to life.

When it is unresolved, complicated loss and grief may negatively impact and reduce quality of life, disrupting the connection to life energy. It may also lead to depression, anger, blame, loneliness, loss of hope and joy in life, and sadly may lead to suicide.

This workshop is grounded in four powerful pillars of therapeutic knowledge; the Satir model, music therapy interventions, the 5 stages of grief proposed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book On Death and Dying, and finally Notes on Fleeting Thoughts – my personal journey of grief and music. My personal grief resembles many other stories of young shattered widows. Unable to word my inner experience, I intuitively started writing them in what became my Notes on Fleeting Thoughts. For me it came out as poetry and music. It was a channel to open my heart without judgement. Release of the unbearable. The process was healing. I listened to and sang songs which spoke my heart, and music that resonated with my inside. I never re-read my notes. Today, fifteen years later, I reflect on my intuitive musical healing process.

Opening my ancient Notes on Fleeting Thoughts I understand how this journey can be shared as a learning experience, helping others in their journey of grief and healing.

Using music, songs and poetry in grief-therapy is based on a holistic, body-mind-spiritual approach. Musical interventions are used to help the bereaved connect to their pain and other emotions present. It allows one to feel the true experienced feelings and not what one ‘should’ feel or others expect from them. It is a connection to the universal experience of pain and loss. The music resonates with our bodily reactions, offering an opportunity to experience, share and express the pain through tears, movement, writing and sound.

Music facilitates talking about loss and pain. Sharing painful emotions, memories, addressing perceptions of life and death, within a safe and protective distance. Songs and music have a universal, spiritual quality, connecting to life energy, hope and faith. Sharing bereavement music and songs between a client and a therapist or a group offers support, comfort, a sense of togetherness, belonging and hope. It voices the hidden and promotes healing. The music provides growing awareness, insight, and acceptance in every stage of the bereavement process towards healing, growth, and change.

This workshop offers participants:

• Understanding of the theories and science behind this model
• Experiencing the use of music, poems, songs, writing and artistic expressions as tools in the process of bereavement and healing.
• Learning ways of implementing songs and music in the different stages of the grieving process.
• Experiencing ways in which sessions can be used as an assessment tool of the client in the grief process using the Satir iceberg metaphor.
• Sharing and learning from other group members about the musical journey of grief.

The online training held via ZOOM is planned for 6 meetings. Each meeting lasting 2:30 hours, in total of 15 hours.  Each meeting includes a theoretical overview, artistic presentations, experiential work with the large group, sharing in small groups, finalizing, and concluding the experiences and topic. It may include some home-work and preparation for the next meeting.

Topics include (but not only):

• Perceptions, fears, taboos, and culture concerning death and dying.
• The 5 freedoms’ impact on grieving.
• Stages of grief and moving between them, unresolved grief.
• Connecting body-mind-spirit; music and rituals in the process of healing.
• Assessing the iceberg in the grief process.
• The mandala of personal resources in loss.
• Where words cannot reach: Using music, songs, poetry, and arts in the process of healing.


with Beth Nemesh, PhD, MT-BC, LMFT

Beth Nemesh, has a PhD in Expressive Arts Therapies. A licensed Marital Family Therapist, a Board-Certified Music Therapist and a Certified Body-Mind Psychotherapist. Beth trained in the Satir Transformational Systemic Therapy (STST) in Israel and Canada since 2006. She is a co-founder of the Israel Satir Institute of the Galilee for professional development and integration of expressive arts with the Satir model.

Beth has been working with children, adolescents, couples and families since 1999. She has researched the field of family music therapy from both music therapy and family therapy perspectives. Beth has published in academic journals and presented at national and international conferences. She has been conducting workshops, teaching and training counselors and therapists in Israel, US and China. Beth advocates for the integration of expressive arts in family therapy training, emphasizing the innovative use and integration of musical interventions with Satir Transformational Systemic Therapy.

The healing power of music can be traced from Shamanic ancient times to current music therapies. Contemporary neuroscience can now give us clear imaging and more explanations as to how music impacts our physical, psychological and spiritual wellbeing. Music bypasses habitual behaviors and internal censors. It taps into unconscious memories, offering new insights and a potential space for new awareness and change.

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October 26, November 2, 9, 16, 23, 30, 2020 8:00 - 10:30 pm PDT

Satir Institute of the Pacific as a non-profit and registered charity provides a limited number of reduced rates based on the United Nations Human Development Index to participants who wish to apply.  These are available on a first come first served basis.   To apply please provide your full registration details including your name, full mailing address (including country), phone number, contact email, employer and address, and occupation to  All applications must be received a minimum of one week prior to program start.  If your application is approved, we will confirm your registration, fee, and payment method. Group 1 countries no reduction, Group 2 countries pay 75% of the program fee, Group 3 countries pay 50% of the program fee and Group 4 countries pay 25% of the program fee.  To see your country category, check the chart here

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Cindi Mueller, Administrator